Suicide Prevention

World Suicide Prevention Day takes place every year on 10th September and is an opportunity to raise awareness of suicide and promote actions that will reduce the number of suicides and suicide attempts globally.

So, what are the facts?

  • One in every 100 deaths worldwide is the result of suicide.
  • In the UK, men are three times as likely to die by suicide than women
  • Men aged 45-49 and women aged 50-54 have the highest rates of suicide
  • One in five of us think about suicide in our lifetimes.
  • In 2019 over 6000 people took their own lives
  • Suicide is the most common cause of death for those aged 10-19 (Stats PHE)

What does it mean to be suicidal?

Suicidal feelings can be complicated and confusing; you may feel very alone, lost, and frightened. You may be feeling there is no other way out of the overwhelming feelings that are leading you to contemplate taking your life.

Your thoughts may range from not wanting to be here to planning how and when you could end your life. You might feel less like you want to die, and more that you want the pain to stop. Some of the things you might be feeling are

  • hopeless or trapped
  • anxious
  • overwhelmed by negative thoughts
  • desperate
  • tempted to do risky or reckless things because you don’t care what happens to you
  • like you want to avoid other people.

What can make someone want to end their life?

Suicidal feelings can affect anyone, irrespective of your age, gender, or background and at any time in your life. The causes and consequences of suicide are complex; what leads someone to want to end their life, to think that killing themselves is the only option open to them? Certainly, struggling to cope with difficulties in your life can cause you to feel suicidal. These difficulties may include:

  • Mental health problems
  • Bullying
  • Post-natal depression
  • Loneliness
  • Bereavement
  • A relationship coming to an end
  • long-term physical pain or illness
  • Money worries
  • Homelessness or other housing issues
  • Drug or alcohol addiction
  • Doubts about sexuality or gender identity

Maybe this resonates with you? If you are feeling suicidal what can you do?

If you are having thoughts of suicide, you may be feeling frightened, confused and lost, or that there is no point in carrying on. You may think no one will miss you or care, but take a moment: suicide is final, there is no coming back or second chance if you really want to end your life there’s no rush.

It may be difficult to take in at this moment but the feelings you are experiencing right now may be temporary – you may not always feel like this.  At this moment you are not able to think clearly about other possibilities, other solutions, alternatives, ways of coping. But there are people who care about how you feel and if you give them a chance, they can help you find alternative ways to cope with life or just listen to what you have to say.

You can talk to a doctor, a friend, a relative, a helpline, a counsellor. I care that you may be thinking of taking your own life, that for you death is the only answer. If you let us, I and many others are willing to help you to make sense of this difficult time.

There are many free helplines available:

  • Samaritans offers a 24 hour a day, 7 days a week support service. Call them free on 116 123. You can also email jo@samaritans.org
  • CALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably) has a helpline (5pm – midnight) and webchat for anyone who’s having a tough time and needs to talk.
  • Papyrus supports people under 35 who have thoughts of suicide and others who are concerned about them. You can call their HOPELINEUK on 0800 068 4141, text 07860 039967 or email pat@papyrus-uk.org. They’re open every day from 9am to midnight.

Other people who can help are:

  • Me, Karen at Flourish through talk – my appointments are available to book now and you can contact me via phone/email or book an appointment online
  • call NHS 111 for out-of-hours help 
  • contact your mental health crisis team if you have one.

Maybe you’re not suicidal but you think you know someone who is. What can you do if you are worried that someone is thinking about talking their own life?

  • Just asking someone if they’re suicidal can help. It can be a big relief to talk about how they feel.
  • Listen and respond with open questions, rather than advice or opinions.
  • Offer help with practical things, such as calling their GP, contacting family and friends, or just sitting and being with them, watching T.V etc.

Together we can end the stigma around suicide. Let’s raise awareness and start conversations; no matter how small they CAN make a difference.

If you’d like to talk about your own situation or you’re worried about someone else, I am here to listen. Please get in touch and book a session, even if it’s a one-off, it can help.

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By email: hello@flourishthroughtalk.co.uk
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